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Hi Audrey, 

When you're finding that you are unable to envision the next level in your life, let me offer you a suggestion:

Upgrade Your Relationships

One of the greatest parts of my childhood was moving every couple of years as an Air Force "brat".  My Dad was on the fast track to ColoneI which meant that "home was where the Air Force sent us."  While many people couldn't imagine moving every couple of years, and some people I know even considered it a kind of "abuse" to pick your kids up and move them across the country that often, I LOVED it. Don't get me wrong, I gave my Dad seven levels of grief each time he'd come home from work and tell us we had to move away from friends, soccer teams, schools, etc. deep down I knew the truth...

...moving gave me a chance to reinvent myself. 

New places meant new friends, new experiences, and even new belief systems. 

They say that you're the average of the five people that you spend the most time with. What I didn't realize is that each time we moved I got to pick a "New 5," which meant that I was constantly growing and stretching. Now, as an adult, I have to make conscious efforts to upgrade my "Average 5." I find that each time I do—especially with my eye on creating relationships that challenge and stretch me to think bigger (better?)—that not only do I find myself engaging more, but I find myself enjoying life more. 

I find that these upgraded relationships produce upgraded results in my life...and with each upgrade comes the chance to envision the next level in my life.

It opens new windows of opportunity that I hadn't been able to see in the past. 

You don't have to get rid of your old friends to upgrade your relationships, just ask better questions, and have deeper, more interesting conversations. You'll find that most of your friends will be receptive to this upgrade. 

...and if they aren't, then maybe it's time to upgrade your friends.

Have a great weekend, 

Chad

 

P.S.

Mavericks, my private coaching group, is open if you'd like to join.  It's not expensive and you get a lot. Each week I put out a video lesson, we have a monthly group call and we also read a book together each month. Members have a special area to connect with one another to share challenges and get coaching and feedback.  If you get a chance, I'd love for you to check it out. 

Here's the link

If you read through and are interested in joining respond directly to this email first and I'll send you a special code for a discount. 

 

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P.O. Box 772984 • Steamboat Springs , Colorado • 80487